What does it take?

Sometimes, I really dislike trying to be happy.  I know that sounds pretty strange but, it’s true.  You hear it all of the time, “I’m trying to be happy.” or, “I’m trying to be in a happy place in y life.”  The question I want to throw out there today is “why do her have to try so hard to be happy?”  Why does it have to take so much effort? Why do we have to waste so much energy just TRYING to be happy?  Shouldn’t being happy not require so much effort? Why should we have to do whatever it takes to make us happy?  Why can’t happiness just show up?  These are some of the questions that I ask myself as I’m just sitting and thinking.  What about you?

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2014: In Review

Well, it’s that time of year when we start to countdown. We’re getting rid of an old year and starting on a new one. Everyone is all a buzz about where to spend the last few hours of 2014 and what they’re going to accomplish in 2015. Personally, I’d rather show you as we go along. No need in predicting anything as of yet because God has this all under His control. I’ll just give you a recap.

This year has been very interesting, to say the least. There were some definitely highs as well as some definite lows. Thankfully, the one thing that was constant was my ministry. My personal life wasn’t stuff made for movies but, my ministry was a great learn period for me. I definitely appreciated the contrasts that were involved. It takes me back to Ecclesiastes 3:1-4…

3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:

2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;

3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;

4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;

I was given the opportunities to baptize two people and, by contrast, I was able to eulogize two people. This was not by accident, I can assure you. All of these experiences were humbling. Twice, I helped welcome someone into the family of God and, twice, I comforted a family who had someone going to be with God. Talk about mind-blowing!! I know that, as long as I am still able to do this task and call, there will be more of both. No one is really ever ready for these types of things–especially death–but just being able to help the family that lost someone is worth it all.

Speaking of baptizing, my youngest son was baptized last Sunday. (INSERT PROUD DAD MOMENT HERE!) When his mom told me the great news, I was definitely elated, joyful, thankful, and any other type of happy expression you could think of. This gave me reassurance that I was doing a good job after all. Of course, I have to give credit to his mom and step-father and, of course, to God Himself. What a way to end the year! I can definitely say without a doubt, “As for me and my house…”

Well, that about sums it up for 2014 for me. I know that’s not a lot in words but the impact is much greater. Happy New Year and I will see you all in 2015! God Bless

Until next year…

Bucket List: A Review

A friend of mine had been hounding me on seeing the movie, The Bucket List. “It’s a great movie. Trust me, you’ll need tissue”, she says. I told her I would check it out because I’m always up for a great movie. Well, being the procrastinator that I am, I hadn’t gotten around to watching it–even though she kept reminding me. Well last week, I come to work and find a copy on my desk. She has actually gone and bought one! Now there was no excuse…lol. So, I made it my business to definitely watch this movies that will supposedly jerk my tears and pull on my heart-strings. Here’s where it gets interesting. I had to attend a funeral for a friend and classmate of mine this past weekend. Sometime on Saturday afternoon I got a phone call from my friend “apologizing profusely” as she put it, about trying to make me watch this movie that apparently had some dealing with death as part of the premise of the movie. Since this was Easter weekend, and since I had to work late on Monday, I decided to watch it Monday morning.

I watched the movie and was definitely not disappointed. In fact, I really enjoyed it! To answer your questions, no I did not need tissue because, like I told my friend, “I cried when Bane broke Batman’s back in Dark Knight Rises and not for stuff like this” (insert snicker). I did admit, however, that I was very moved by the movie and was definitely worth her investment. Actually, I was very appreciative that she got a copy for me because I probably would not have bought it. She gets major Kudos for this.

Now, back to the post. After watching this movie, I realized a few things. First, EVERYONE should have a bucket list. Second, everyone’s list will be different. Third, the list itself does not have to be big but should be powerful enough to have some meaning to your life. Last, do your absolute best to complete it. In the movie, Jack Nicholson’s character had a list that was mainly fun and was to be exhilarating while Morgan Freeman’s character had a list that was more rehabilitative (think 12 steps). Jack’s character wanted to skydive while Morgan’s character wanted to “witness something majestic”. By the end of the movie, it was as if their lists traded writers. One thing that stood out though, was that they each had a respect for each other’s list. I don’t want to give too much of the story away but I will say this–each one of us wants to adventure and each one of us wants closure. While one may be greater than the other, sometimes the two can be intertwined or, relative, as it were. If you take anything from this, make sure it’s the part about making The List. It may do you some good…

So, What’s Your Story?

We’ve all gone to movies at least once. There is always a story that is being told and sometimes there is even a happy ending. Well I was looking at one on Netflix the other day and, as the movie went on, I thought for a second I focused on the extras in the background. They are usually carrying on some sort of conversation or simply just walking by. I thought to myself, “I wonder what their story is. I mean seriously, what’s the deal with the couple at the next table? Are they going through something or are they happy?” The truth is, I really didn’t know what their deal was. It really shouldn’t have made a difference to me nor should I have been concerned but, the fact remained that it kinda bothered me. Not to the point that I lost sleep per se but, think about it; everyone has a story in their own movie. My job wasn’t to judge them in any way but I was definitely curious. I guess we all have at least one scene or another where others can see us without being too transparent. It’s actually kinda cool when you think about it. Your story could easily be a movie. Your life can be on the silver screen or, at least on DVD lol. There’s joys, sorrows, heartache, happiness and even sadness. The good thing about this is that we have the opportunity to write the ending. It may not win an Oscar but it not any less important than anyone else. The point I’m trying to make here is that you will always have to go to different scenes in your life but, the key is to keep making the scenes. While in your scenes, do your best to give your best performance. You never know. Someone may be watching your movie…