Last weekend, my oldest asked me, “Dad if you could change something in your past, what would it be?” That was definitely a random question from him but, not unusual. He’s definitely the analyst between he and his brother. We had just seen the latest Terminator movie so, I am going to assume that this is where the question came from. Anyway, as we pulled into Target to waste some time before going home, I thought about his question so that I could give a halfway intelligent answer. I said to him, “I don’t think I would change a thing. If I were to go back too far, then you and your brother wouldn’t be here. If I didn’t go back far enough, then I may not be where I am at this point in my life. I’m cool where I am.”
That conversation made me think a little more. What if we were able to go back and change some things in our lives? I’m not just talking about the bad stuff. I mean, anything. If I could change the fact that I got out of the Army and stayed in, I would have more than likely been deployed to God knows where for God knows how long. More importantly, there would be a question of would I make it out alive? If I could change the fact that I was laid off more than once, there’s a possibility that I could have been a decent job making good money. The flip side is that I could have missed out on some of the experiences that I have had that, quite frankly, have given me some life lessons that I so desperately needed. I guess the point I’m trying to make here is that the things that have happened in our lives have all be for a reason. Yes, some of them have been bad choices and other good ones. If you’ve made some bad choices in your life, I pray that you have learned from them so that you can be better than who you were back then. If you’ve made some good choices in your life, I pray that you can appreciate them and hopefully cherish them over and over. Here’s the rub: The bad choices are only relative to the time that they occurred. I’d like to think that the so-called bad choices enabled me to grow, learn more about myself, push abilities to their limits and, more importantly, learn how to rely on God. If every choice I made was good in my eyes, then what would have really learned? How could I grow as a man, father, etc? How would I learn how to rely on God? Definitely something to think about, isn’t it?
The next time someone asks you “what would you change?”, think about where you are now and what you could lose if you did change it. I’m pretty sure you’d be happy where you are.