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Good Morning Readers

It’s a nice brisk and cold day here in FL. I really don’t understand the issues we are having with this weather but I guess we will survive. I pray that my northern readers will stay as warm as possible. I really don’t have a lot to say today. I guess I’m even keel as emotions go. I’m still standing on the Promises that God has in store for me. There are those days, however, that our faith will undulate. We have to keep that in mind as we go along this journey. I cannot attempt to minister to you without looking inward. So, here I am.

Under my own microscope, I just picked up a copy of the book, Why YOU Do the Things You Do, by Dr. Tim Clinton. Talk about stepping on your toes, no nonsense type of writing. I was scared to go on reading because so much of it was about me. I hope I’m able to provide as much insight in my tiny Blog as I go on as Dr. Clinton has in this book…lol. I guess we all have had some hurtful things done to and by us over the years of our lives. I guess what he is trying to get through to the reader is that while we can easily say “they did this and it hurt SO badly”, there are things that WE did in whatever relationship is having trouble. Which ones are irrelevant for this post but the bottom line is that there has to be some sort of responsibility that WE have to take for ourselves when WE screw it up. I’ve had to learn the hard way several times that this is more true than not. I don’t mean to suggest that we beat ourselves into oblivion dwelling on the hurt. I’m simply trying to say that sometimes, it’s NOT ALWAYS ALL THEIR FAULT! As stated above, we have been hurt and there is no getting around that. However we’ve shot a few volleys across many a bow as well. We have to learn to NOT hurt with malice, or intention. Maybe then planet Earth along with mankind will prosper just a bit longer.

Until next time…


Let’s Have a Fight

Good Morning Readers:

It’s Wednesday and we’re on this side of eternity.  Thank God.  Don’t get me wrong, I know WHERE I will spend eternity.  I’m just not ready yet…lol

I was speaking with a co-worker a few weeks back and she shared this bit of information that I felt compelled to pass on to you.  I enjoyed it and I hope you will as well.

How to Have a Good Fight.

The title alone should spark some interest because we all have them and will continue as long as we’re alive.  The thing is that I really didn’t know there were “rules” to having a good fight.  In fact, I didn’t even know that fights were ever good.  Well I guess they can be and they have rules.  Who would have thought this one?  My co-worker says she got this from her Bible Study group.  I wish she would have told me who came up with this so that I can give them credit but I will share it with you anyhow.  For the record, I am listing the points and also my interpretation of them.  I will highlight my responses.  Please understand that I’m not an expert so I’m learning from this as well.


  1.  Be committed to honesty and mutual respect – This is tough since most fights are based off of emotions, which aren’t always positive.  I guess the key here is to make sure you have a valid reason for the fight.  DO NOT PICK A FIGHT JUST TO HAVE ONE!
  2. Make sure the weapons are not deadly – See my blog from yesterday.  Also, the fallacy of personal attack should not happen here.  Ex. Name calling, wishing negative things, etc.
  3. Agree that the time is right – Note to Parents:  Never, EVER argue in front of children.  Imagine having your child’s teacher explain why they sent your child to the office for something they heard YOU say in a fight THEY overheard the night before. 
  4.  Be ready with a positive solution SOON AFTER the swing – If you feel you’ve been wronged, you better have a solution as to how you BOTH can make corrections.  Finger pointing should not happen without the finger pointing back to YOU!
  5. Watch your words (keep it tactful) and guard your tone – Again, see my blog from yesterday and also refer to point 2 as well as point 3.
  6. Don’t swing in public – What better way to draw unnecessary attention than to act like a fool in public.   Even if you feel you’re justified, you still look really silly.  If your points are valid, they can keep until you’re in private.
  7. When it’s over, help CLEAN UP THE MESS – According to the rules of conventional warfare, the two opponents are responsible for cleaning and rebuilding the areas that were devastated during the conflict.  In this case, this should involve KINDNESS, TENDERNESS, AND FORGIVENESS!!!


TALK ABOUT DEEP!!!  When I first read this I thought, “There is no way I can do this”.  Well, for the most part, I was right.  See when you know you know there is a fight waiting to happen (and even if you don’t), say a quick prayer so that your hedge that’s around you is built up in order to prevent the bad things from making the bad situation worse. 

Until next time…

Open Letter…It will cost you, just not everything.

Good morning readers;

I am so glad it is Tuesday!  I was off yesterday but I had the worst headache.  Imagine having a hangover without having a drop to drink.  That pretty much explains mine yesterday.  Well that is all over now and I have my coffee and I’m ready to look today in the eyes.  I hope you are doing well.

Someone will always say that they have something on you.  It doesn’t really matter what it is or the severity of what you did that the person knows about.  The bottom line is that they know and they can now use it against you.  Well, my advice to you is let them.  Why? Well, for starters, they could be just saying it to see your reaction, or, they really could have something against you.  Either way you look at it, they will do what they have set out to do.  The key is will you let it affect you and your goals?  The answer should be “no” but, since we are all human here, I certainly understand if your answer is different.  Personally, I don’t want it to interfere with what I have set in my mind to do or, more importantly, what God has set out for me to do.  One thing is certain, God’s Will MUST BE DONE because He said it will be.  As much as someone may try to throw monkey wrenches in your program, as much as Satan himself will use someone as a vehicle to make his presence known, the truth of the matter is nothing will stop God from doing what he wants to do through YOU.  This may sound like a rant of sorts today but, sometimes I have to go through this thought process in order to get my point across. 

We have to keep in mind that, we will make some bad decisions in life.  Sometimes they will result in great consequences.  I can speak for myself in that the bad decisions that I’ve made have cost me a lot but, they didn’t cost me everything.  There is the Growth Moment for the Day

Bad decisions will cost you, but will not cost you everything!

Until next time…

Perseverance 101

Good Morning Readers:

Today is a great day. It’s great because you are alive and even though you may not be where you want to be, you certainly are not where you used to be. I thank my God that I am nowhere where I used to be and I am praying that I can get where I need to be. Well, it’s over. The end of the 2009 NFL Season is something that I never ever look forward to. I always say that I wish they could lengthen the season by a few more games just for junkies like me. In an optimistic view, it gives me a reason to look forward to the 2010 season. Congratulations to the New Orleans Saints. I was actually pulling for the Colts but this was not to be their year to win.

This was a really great weekend for me as I always make sure to spend time with my boys. This weekend, however, was really great because this was the first time we were able to experience a monster truck show. When I told my oldest that we were going he lit up with excitement. He had wanted to go to this show for years and finally, he was able to. My youngest was equally excited just to be able to be there as well. The weather was a little colder than I expected (sorry northerners, the mid 40s is cold down here in Florida), but just the quality time with them made it all worth it. As usual, I am going toward our Growth Moment for the day so here it is.

In Matthew’s Gospel he tells of the story of the Caananite woman whose daughter was possessed with a demon. She went to Jesus for help only to be rejected by Him not once, but twice. She in greeted Him with respect and admiration at first only to be told that she was not eligible for such blessings. She then asked simply for help to which she was answered that the blessings that she wanted could not be taken from the people who they were intended for to be given to the likes of her. Her response was simple, even a portion of the blessings that the others don’t use with be sufficient. Jesus then replied she was one of the most faithful people he had ever met and because of this faith he healed her daughter instantly.

WOW!!! Talk about strong faith. Here we have a woman, with a demon possessed daughter, humbling herself to go and ask for a blessing that she not only had to work for but, in fact, wasn’t really promised to her in the first place. Are you paying attention to this? She didn’t deserve the blessing, nor was she entitled to it but, she got it because she REALLY BELIEVED that it would be given to her IF she persevered and held onto her faith. Ok, let me give you another example. My son has wanted to go to this truck show for years. He asked me the first time and I told him, “we’ll see” Last year he asked me again and I replied, “let’s see how your grades are before we make any decisions on going. This year, he added that the tickets were just $15 and that we really didn’t have to buy anything, he just wanted to go. Now the price of the tickets weren’t the issue here. The fact that my son was so adamant about going that he persevered long enough for Dad to give in. That’s what that woman did. She knew if she was patient, yet diligent enough, to ask for her blessing, she KNEW she would get it. That’s what faith is all about. I’m sure you can ask any fan in the city of New Orleans what they really wanted out of their team, the answer would be very clear. WIN THE SUPER BOWL. If you notice, I didn’t say “be a dynasty team”. Just win one for us. That’s all we’re asking. That team, along with that city has persevered forty-two years for ONE Super Bowl victory and they got it last night. They didn’t ask for a lot although the city itself has been through a type of hell that is incomprehensible to a lot of us. But they got the win and that in itself is a great thing. Here is our Growth Moment for the day:

Persevering Faith brings great rewards!

Until next time…

He’s Got You…

Good Day Readers;

I hope you are having a good day and, if not, that it gets better for you.  It’s February already! I pray that you have accomplished some of what you have set out to do this year.  Me, I’m getting there.  My classes got pushed back to May so that in itself is a setback but, not to worry, I am pressing on.

Not much to tell today.  Just a standard Wednesday in Florida.  I’m looking forward to the weekend so that I can spend it with my boys.  I don’t mean to suggest that I don’t but, nevertheless, I enjoy it. 

Well I have my speaking engagements behind me and, I must say, that they I was truly blessed to have the opportunity to be part of the services.  I have posted them here so feel free to read them.  Hopefully, you will be blessed reading them as I was writing them.  I have talked to several Ministers and Pastors and they all agree that preparation is definitely the key to getting your message across to God’s people.  My Mentor told me that “no matter how many times you speak, you will always have something on the inside that stirs in you.  I’ve been doing this for over thirty years and I still get it.  The only piece of advice I can give you is to pray before you start.  After that, God will do the rest.”  He was right!  Sometimes, those little things on the inside are there because it’s definitely an indicator that God is present.  It’s Him telling you, “I’ve got you.  I’ve given you the words to say and the people that need to hear what you have to say are here.  I’ve got you.”  With that comes our Growth Moment for the day.  Whatever you are facing, whatever problem it is that you cannot solve, whatever obstacle you are trying to negotiate seems difficult to get over, remember what God says…

I’ve got you!


Until next time…

Mission in Action (Time to Punch In and Go to Work)

John 9:1-4

If search the dictionary, we will find that the word mission has several yet different meanings:

  1.  a ministry commissioned by a religious organization to propagate its faith or carry on humanitarian work
  2. the act or an instance of sending
  3. a specific task with which a person or a group is charged

On this first Mission Sunday in 2010, we want to look at just what the mission of the Church really is. 

One of the purposes of what the Church’s mission is can best be described in The Gospel according to

John and, more specifically, Chapter Nine. 

The ninth chapter of John’s Gospel opens with the story of a man that was blind from birth.  He had not

seen so much as a sunrise or even a beautiful flower or even the faces of his mother and father. 

However, on this day, his life would be changed forever simply because Jesus passed by.  Jesus was

asked the question, “who sinned, this man or his parents?”  Jesus replied, “neither one of them had

sinned.  He is here today so that the works God should be made manifest in him.”  Jesus then spits on

the ground and makes clay to anoint the man’s eyes then sends the man to go and wash in the pool of

Siloam.  However before this miracle was to take place, Jesus made the statement that brings us to our

key verse that we will talk about today.  Jesus said in verse 4:

  4I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work.

When we look at verse 4 we can be certain of one thing and that thing is that God has already pre-

ordained us to do His will, His way, according to His word.  From time we said yes to whatever God has

called us to do, we, in essence, applied for a job.  That job that you applied for will no doubt be different

from that of the person next to you but, make no mistake about it, you do have a job.  One thing we

have to realize is that as long as we are down here on planet Earth, as long as we are in church day in

and day out, as long as there is no shortage of unsaved souls, the work of the Church is a work that will

increase but it is also a work that will never EVER cease. In other words, as long as there are people out

there still in sin, as long as there are those that need to hear the Word of God, and as long as there are

those suffering from BADD (Blessed Assurance Deficit Disorder), there is a job to do which we have

applied for and we need to punch in and get to work!!  All we have to do is be willing to decrease so that

God can increase.  Once we realize that; once we take our hands off of it and put it in God’s hands:

God can save whom God wants to save

God can heal whom God wants to heal

God can set free whom God wants to set free

God can deliver whom God wants to deliver

God can straighten out whom God wants to straighten out

God can work a miracle for whomever a miracle needs to be worked

If you look again at verse 4 Jesus is giving us the agenda as THE CHURCH to do the works of Him that

sent us.  We must do God’s will, according to God’s way, according to God’s Word but the reason why

we must do this is because there is an agenda that must be done RIGHT NOW! Jesus said that there is

work to be done and He also said that we need to do it because God said so.  The reason God said it is

because we have been pre-destined to do it  The first thing we need to do in order to get done what

must be done, however,  is to get the agenda that was given to us by God.  When we go to our jobs from

Monday to Friday, when we were students in our various schools, when we are busy with our busyness,

there is always an agenda that shows us what the tasks that needs to be completed is as well as how it

should be performed.  Jesus commanded us in Matthew 28:19-20 to:


19Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:

   20Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

In other words, before we can ever say, “Come ye that loves the Lord” we must first say, “A charge to

keep I have, a God to glorify”.  We cannot wait on the job to get done when it’s already there waiting on

us to do it. 

God wants us to do His will.  He wants us to do it His way. He wants us to do it according to His word. 

God also has an agenda how He wants the work to be done and He wants it done right now.  But more

importantly, the reason why he wants it done now is because we are in the last days and, most

assuredly, He is coming back for His Church.  Jesus told His Disciples that, “the harvest is truly plenteous,

but the laborers are few.”  This means that there is a lot a work to be done and we have to be equal to

the task in order to tell the dying world that “the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal

life.”  So we have to use what we’ve got and get to work in order to get the job done.  In other words,

just like the songwriter said:

We’re crossing over, one by one

We’re fast approaching the setting sun

Don’t let Him catch you with your work undone

We’re crossing over one by one